This weekend I have had the pleasure of watching the movie ‘Wonder’. Actually, twice now because I loved it so much. I think it’s safe to say it is one of my new favourite movies and I would absolutely highly recommend anyone who hasn’t seen it to give it a watch! Wonder is the story of August ‘Auggie’ Pullman, a boy who was born with a facial deformity resulting in multiple surgeries (27 to be precise!) and him not looking like anyone else. The story highlights how awful bullying can be, especially at school, and even more so when you don’t happen to look or act like everyone else. But the reason this movie is so great is because it doesn’t just showcase Auggie’s struggles. It shows that there are always two sides to every thing. It shows the perspectives and emotions of those around him, and displays why they act the way that they do.
I think it highlights how so many people have their own personal issues, but continue to suffer in silence.
I am a big sucker for memorable one-liners in movies. For example, “You had me at hello” and “You complete me” from Jerry Maguire are some of my absolute favourites! Wonder had a few different ones that stuck with me and got me thinking. Firstly, “You can’t blend in when you were born to stand out”. I think this is so significant to everyone. There are going to be times throughout your life where you aren’t like everyone around you, or you are the odd one out, and that is totally okay! Embrace being different and act confident, then no one will question you! I look back at school now and I think maybe the reason I felt so lonely was because I didn’t conform to what everyone expected of me. If I didn’t want to do something, I just wouldn’t do it and no one could talk me into doing it.
Secondly, the next few blend in together; “When given the choice of being right or being kind, choose kind”. The world really does need a little more kindness and a little more love. Then there is “Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle, and if you really want to see what people are, all you have to do is look” and “If we knew what everyone was thinking we would understand that no one is ordinary and everyone deserves a standing ovation”. These make you realise that no matter what is going on in your life, someone else will also always be suffering his or her own battle. And often, suffering in silence too. If someone is angry or snappy, don’t fight back or snap back, instead step back and think “maybe this person is going through something right now” and take a different approach.
I look back on my life over the years now, and I have come to realise that I was suffering in silence. I would keep all my problems to myself and I wouldn’t tell anyone how I was feeling. Although I do wear my heart on my sleeve and everyone can always tell when I am upset or feeling the way I do because it is written all over my face. But because I bottled it in, there would be times where I had to let it all out and I would be a mess.
Sometimes with anxiety there are days where your head is spinning from the constant chatter and the world feels a lot heavier on your shoulders than some. You might lash out and the person that you snap at isn’t going to understand why you are snapping at them and are on the verge of tears. That other person isn’t going to understand that you are going through something, or that you are struggling that day. Most people will just snap back.
All I am trying to say is that someone will always be battling something and we just need to try and take care of one another a little bit more. Ask more people “is everything okay?” and sometimes that is all it takes to make someone realise that they are not alone and to help them feel comforted and loved. Love really does make the world go around, and I don’t think there could ever be enough of it <3